When a relationship loses the crucial element of trust, it essentially loses everything of real value. Once the trust is gone, the relationship becomes an empty shell of actions and words that mean very little to either person.
In the case of romantic or loving relationships, the element of trust is essential. Things fall apart in the relationship almost immediately when trust is lost between the two people.
One of the most common ways trust between two loving people begins to break down is when one person breaks an important promise to the other. And while a single broken promise might not mean much relationship-wise, when the broken promises start to pile up, you can guarantee there’s going to be trouble.
The only healthy path beyond broken promises is healing and reconciliation. Without the ability to heal in a relationship, you might give up and move on with your lives. It’s so important.
If you’re looking for healing after broken promises in a relationship, here are 5 steps you can take to get back in love:
1. Understand that broken promises are not your fault:
When your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner has broken an important promise to you on more than one occasion, understand that it’s not your fault. Everyone is responsible for their own actions and you should never feel guilty or take responsibility for something you didn’t do.
2. Acknowledge your role in maintaining the overall health of the relationship:
At the same time though, it’s also important that you recognize your role in the underlying issues that exist in your relationship. In other words: you’ve been a part of this relationship for some time. You need to take some level of responsibility for allowing things to get to this level.
3. Write how you are feeling right now:
Begin your healing process by writing down exactly how you are feeling right this minute. Your emotions are the gateway to your soul. That’s why it’s so important to hear how you really feel. Consider writing down your thoughts and emotions in a journal. Putting things down on paper is a great way to sort things out within yourself.
4. Think about how you want your relationship to be in the future:
Then turn your attention to how you want things to develop in your relationship. Do you think it’s better for the two of you to be together? If yes, how would it be? How can you get to that happy place of mutual trust and kept promises again?
5. Start a healing dialogue with your partner:
Now it’s time to start a healing dialogue with your partner. Choose your words carefully. Avoid making accusations at all costs. What you need to do is focus on appreciating who they are and what you love about them. But you also need to frankly and openly share how you feel when they break promises to you.
Follow these 5 steps to healing a relationship after broken promises.