Life is made up of stages, it’s a journey and a permanent learning process. By being focused on a single thing, namely the search for love, you can miss out on your life, miss the opportunities that surround you and that can help you enjoy this journey. An insatiable quest for love can be satisfied when you meet the chosen one, but it can also be a real disappointment if you never manage to achieve your goal. It is often said that love falls on us when we least expect it: this statement can be valid in certain circumstances, especially if you are active in your life in general. Don’t make the search for love an end goal. Instead, build a life where you will be fulfilled. It is during this construction that you will meet potential suitors for love, as you wished. Don’t miss out on your life anymore, don’t waste any more time.
- Set goals
If you focus all your energy looking for love and it turns out to be fruitless, time is surely slipping through your fingers. You need to set other goals in order to allocate your time differently. You need professional goals, goals to take care of yourself, to please yourself, etc.
- Spend time alone
Behind the search for love at all costs often hides the idea that a person will fill a void. Before looking for someone to help you grow, spend time alone. These solo moments will allow you to get to know yourself better and to set goals in order to flourish alone at first.
- learn to love yourself
A person can love you madly, but if you don’t love yourself, you will always doubt the love that the other has for you. By tirelessly seeking love, you seek in the other what already exists within you: the capacity to love. To better love the other, you must first learn to love yourself. Instead of wasting time searching, start by identifying everything that makes you valuable. In this way, you will not throw yourself in the first person who comes just to fill a lack of love.
- Be independent
If you are not independent in every sense of the term and especially in the affective domain, you will always be dependent on the gaze and approval of others. By learning to be independent at all levels of your life, you will no longer be looking for love at all costs. The quest for love can make you miss out on your independence.
- Learn to understand others
In your search for fulfillment, you must not forget the others. It is by listening to loved ones and people you meet during a conversation that you will learn to understand the other. Through this active listening and understanding, you will be able to love and accept others as they are. Because in the pursuit of love, we often miss meeting beautiful people.
- Be open to dating
Just because you’re not looking for love anymore doesn’t mean you have to isolate yourself. On the contrary, by pursuing your personal dreams and projects, you will be on a path where you will have the possibility of meeting people who are looking for the same thing as you. It is precisely for this reason that you must remain open to meetings and keep your eyes wide open, because that is surely when you will find love.